Do you want to give up on your marriage? Are you constantly fighting? This blog is for you! I want to encourage you to stop FIGHTING IN your marriage and start FIGHTING FOR your marriage (I wrote a blog about it!). Below are four reasons why you should keep fighting for your marriage.
4 Reasons why you should FIGHT FOR your marriage:
Reason #1: Because you made a VOW to God and each other!
You gave your word that you were committed to your spouse until you die! Be a person of your word! Honor your commitment! But, what if your spouse didn’t honor his or her commitment? The bible gives only a couple of circumstances where divorce is an option (Marital unfaithfulness). This blog isn’t a blog to help you figure out that decision or get into the theology of it.
If you have biblical reason for divorce, please know that it still isn’t God’s design and it is always more painful than you think. If you don’t have a biblical reason for divorce, then it isn’t an option! Jesus gets to the heart of the matter in Mark 10:2-9. It says, “Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” “What did Moses command you?” he replied. They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.” “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Reason #2: Because Marriage is SYMBOLIC of our relationship with God
Ephesians 5:21-25 (NIV)
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Who is the bride of Christ? We are! Who is our groom? Jesus! I don’t know about you, but I am grateful that Jesus (my groom) has not given up on me (the bride) even when I have, at times, turned my back on Him. He has and always will be fighting for my relationship with Him. Here is where your fight is powerful. When you stay together with your husband or wife and fight for your marriage, You are showing the world what Christ does for us and what we are to do for Him. In other words, your marriage is a symbol to the world of our relationship with Him! Keep fighting!
Reason #3: Because your kids are watching!
Divorce doesn’t just affect you, it affects your kids. Heck! It affects my kids. Our kids are watching. They are learning. They want to be like you. They want to do what you do. Your marriage has the potential to create legacy and stability for them. What do you want your story to be written about? What do you want your kids to say about your approach to your marriage and to your family? I pray my kids would say that I fought for my marriage and I fought for them. I pray the same for you.
Reason #4: Because your spouse is worth it.
One day, a man will ask me for my daughter’s hand in marriage (when she is 40!). That man better treat my daughter like the princess she is to me. I feel the same way about my son. His wife better treat him right. Guys, I want to remind you that your wife is someone’s daughter. Ladies, I want to remind you that your husband is someone’s son. Now get this! Galatians 3:26 says, “So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith.” In other words, your spouse is a child of the King. Your spouse is someone that Christ gave his life for!
If your spouse is worth Christ’s sacrifice then he or she is worth your commitment. Keep fighting!
Are there any reasons why you have kept fighting for your marriage that are not listed above? I would love to hear your feedback!